The dreaded 'M' word: Mother's Day

If you’ve been trying to conceive and it hasn’t happened as quickly as you’d like, Mother’s Day can feel like rubbing salt in a fresh wound.

A lot of the time, people talk about meditation and yoga and staying calm this weekend. People talk about coping. Well... f*ck that. Cope? What a terrible word. We do not cope. We thrive. We thrive on mother’s day because we can choose to. So I ask you this… how do we thrive through mothers day? Well, we’ve got some ideas.

1. What mothers day? Correct - it is SUNDAY

One healthy way to thrive this Sunday is to ignore it entirely. Call it Friday (Fri-yay) if you want. Go wild. Just ignore it. Bury your head in the sand deeper than an ostrich looking for whatever ostriches eat down there.

2. Celebrate motherhood anyway

Got a cat? Good, extra snuggles. Got a plant? Even better, more water for them today. Got a plushie? Squeeze it hard. Know who the most prolific mother of all is? Ru Paul. That's right. Her record 'Call Me Mother' is an excellent one for this weekend. Trust me on this, give it a listen. It’s a real ‘FU’ to merely ‘coping’, and an anthem for those who thrive.

3. It's MothersDUVET Day

Hide inside, pick a brilliant series to watch, grab a favourite snack, and generally treat yourself. If this is a day to hibernate away inside, great - do it. If that is what thriving is for you, thrive away, queen. 💅

4. Phone a friend

Not sure what to talk about? Doesn't matter. Ask them to tell you everything they ate yesterday. Ask them about their most embarrassing school memory, the one that makes your ovaries cringe. Ask them to tell you a funny story. Ask them to talk to you, and tell them that you may not want to talk back, all you need is to just connect. Whatever you ask for, here's the most important thing: ask for what you need. And if you're not sure who to talk to, talk to us – send us an email. Send us a gif. Send us the Iliad of your emotions. Email us – we'll commiserate with you, then on Monday we'll delete the email and no one needs to know it happened. This weekend might be dire for the TTC among us, but it sure as shit doesn't need to feel lonely.

5. Get through it - whatever you need to do to get through Sunday, do just that.

Do you, because that’s what is most important here.

However you choose to spend the day, treat this as permission to put YOU first.