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The dreaded 'M' word

25 Apr 2023

If you’ve been trying to conceive and it hasn’t happened as quickly as you’d like, Mother’s Day can feel like rubbing salt in a fresh wound.

The journey to parenthood is often challenging but this day, in particular, can be a struggle. That’s why we’ve put together a few tips on how to prepare and look after yourself.

Stay away from social media.

Ever delete Facebook or Instagram for a weekend? Now might be a good time. Posts, stories and hashtags will revolve around mums and a good way to avoid this is to well, avoid it. Worried that avoidance is unhealthy? Don’t be. Even therapists say avoidance is ok , as long as it’s a short-term solution!

Spoil yourself

Exercise? Self-care? Bubble bath? Retail therapy? Massage?  The important thing here is to try to do the things that bring you joy. Embrace them. Wrap yourself up in them for the day.

Choose how you want to spend the day

You don’t need to meet with family if you don’t want to (but you may want to schedule a text to your mum in advance!), stay home if you think that meeting up with family members will cause you more stress or heartache. You can hibernate! Grab a book and a cuppa or binge that new series on Netflix you’ve been meaning to watch.

Confide in your partner

If you’re finding it difficult, let them know so they can support you. It’s ok if you can’t express exactly what you’re thinking or feeling, sometimes a simple “I need a hug” can suffice. And hugs are scientifically proven to help us feel better!

Let yourself feel sad

If you’re feeling the urge to cry, don’t hold back. You’ve been strong for so long - releasing your tears and emotions is totally ok. It can even be good for you, researchers have shown that crying can release endorphins which can actually help you feel better.

However you choose to spend the day, treat this email as permission to put YOU first.

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